How do you make the right choice when faced with a dilemma that keeps you awake at night? Is your day filled with reminders of a decision you need to make? Should you leave that ‘safe’ job you’ve long outgrown and have now come to dread? Should you stay in a relationship that leaves you feeling empty and alone? Should you do something about a problem that you’ve tried to avoid, because you fear that taking action may be worse? Get my drift? Whilst I never advocate ‘shoulding’ on your self, it seems to me that to make the right choice you decide whether to be a victim of your life or face the challenge and make it work. In the process, you gain strength, confidence and become more empowered. This may help you decide …
Imagine you’re at a T- junction
If you turn left, it’s the same old same old. It’s not what you want, but it’s what you know. It feels safe but it doesn’t inspire you. It adds nothing to your life … and over time, it will change who you are.
If you turn right, you’re going into the unknown. You can’t see far ahead and undoubtedly, there will be challenges along the way, but there will also be new possibilities and opportunities that you simply cannot imagine.
Which road will you take?
Now, making the right choice is not just about the big dilemmas. It’s also the small, daily choices that shape the quality of our lives and affect our happiness. So many people have the power to make changes that would transform their professional or personal lives, but they don’t. The prospect is so daunting that they believe it’s easier to give up without trying. Fear takes over and drives them to seek short-term comfort in one of the many ways available to self-medicate.
“The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what you want most for what you want now.” – Zig Ziglar
We convince ourselves that everything is fine, to avoid the problem and continue with our lives. Unfortunately, once you know you’re making a choice to do nothing and stay in your comfort zone, that knowledge changes you. It changes how you feel about yourself (and sometimes others), it changes what you see when you look in the mirror and it catches you unawares when you least expect. One day, you look back on your life and your choice has become a regret. So back to the T-junction …
Directions for turning right
1. When you’re standing at that junction, take a leap of faith. If you expect the problem or challenge to be difficult and painful, it undoubtedly will be. Keep your focus on the gain, not the pain.
2. Decide that each step you take will be easy and light! Change your attitude to one that supports your success.
Remember: Attitude > Thoughts > Behaviour > Results/Outcomes
3. Set yourself up to succeed and create a plan for success. Identify your options and set them out on paper. Consider what you need to make this work and be honest. Ask yourself, “If I wasn’t afraid, what actions would I take?”
4. Notice when negative thoughts come up and refuse them headspace. Before those desired outcomes get relegated to ‘impossible dreams’, press the ‘refresh’ button and stay focused on your goal.
5. Start walking in the right direction!And if you need some help with leaving your comfort zone to make the right choice, I will ensure the steps you take are small, manageable and totally inspiring, so that you’re confident and ready to fly. CALL ME!
“Come to the edge”
“It’s too high!”
“Come to the edge”
“I might fall!”
“Come to the edge …”
And you came. And I pushed you. And you flew!